Hello again
I have been worrying about what I need or can do in the future to help my children or friends to avoid getting stress related diseases or problems, let’s be honest none of us are unaffected by stress… well unless you’re a Buddhist Monk that has reached ultimate solitude.
I mean what can you do to relieve yourself of excess stress, what can you avoid in everyday life?, think about it, do you need to take multiple different public transportation to get to a job or school for example, and it is often in the last minute or you when in transit race to get through the different means of transportation as fast as possible?
Take a few minutes and think about it, I used to do just that, race between the different trains, subway or buses to get from home to school, often without reason running to get to the first available and fastest route to get to my end destination… Why?, I wasn’t in any hurry most of the time, I could have waited until the next train or whatever it wasn’t like I didn’t have time to wait...
So why didn’t I just stop up and wait?, Humans are somewhat easily influenced by their surroundings, thus I believe I may have been sent into this “race” by those around me that indeed seemed to be in a hurry or in a panic to get somewhere before a certain time, like life is a time race of sorts.
Now this has just been an example of what could be a part of stress damage that can be found among many in today’s society, If one goes into my past and begin recording everything from age 4 until like 15 of all the bullying which caused anxiety and depression to cause even further bullying and being pushed away from the normal social progression pushing bad judgment in choosing some friends that indeed was not friends at all but using you in own selfish needs…
Anyway, as you from most of this you should now understand why I want to help the next generation of my own kin and friends or even the world progress towards a healthier world and better understanding of how to avoid or control stress.
I believe I may well one day be able to shirk of most of the stress damages that has been inflicted in my childhood and teen years, but will always have lacked that being a kid and social development most people get as they are young and will thus always be sort of an outsider in that remark.
…A thought just hit me, the stereotypical response from the those that never had the hardships or claims they got stronger from it is to “build a bridge, and get over it” which is as logical as telling a rape victim to go back to their job the day after the incident and get over it!*, which you must agree is that they are totally out of their minds.
*=(Believe me, I disliked using that example and would taken something else would I have thought of anything that is worse.)
So what can we do to prepare the children and youth of tomorrow to handle and relieve themselves of the excess stress in life and lower the rates of stress related diseases in the future?
I am no psychologist thus what I am describing and suggest is what I have experienced and concluded by own dealings with said professionals on the subject of my own mental health and what could be done and what could have been done and so on.
Many times suggestions are that one should take deep breathing exercises or any gentle form of meditation, this I agree on, but a word of warning, one should study and practice meditation in moderation and be mindful that there are some danger in meditation one should be mindful of, I recommend a few searches on a search engine on the internet about meditation, “meditation science” and “dangers in meditation”.
Consulting with my family doctor suggests that exercises may be a way to help with stress related problems and diseases, I agree here as well, in combination with light meditation it be a good combination and give a better quality of life, albeit some, like myself for example may need a friend or family member to be involved in the exercise if they have something like Agoraphobia or such to strengthen the feeling of safety for the person that suffers from it.
Some with stress related diseases may benefit from talking sessions with a psychologist or a trained voluntary support person, though in some cases this is a counter-effective solution as meeting new people may well be a stress multiplier for some when having to talk with someone that is new about their stress problems, even the psychologist, unfortunately this did not help me much for example as during a long period the local psychology department in my town had temporary psychologists on loan or that was for some reason or another just there for a few months and was soon to move on to another region/town, so at a time I had a new one for every planed session…
In some cases having a voluntary person by the department as an “assigned buddy” is more uncomfortable than talking freely to a person in the family, a good friend or significant other.
Many with stress diseases find themselves stuck in home due to being uncomfortable in a perceived “unsafe” environment for fear of having a panic attack or problems related to their stress damage/disease, this is more commonly known as Agoraphobia which I mentioned earlier in this post.
There are of course many different ideas and experiences of how and what one can do about stress, this of course is different pending on the person…
As you have read this, I suspect that you will at least have a better understanding of how my view is in daily life at least a little bit, there are of course so much more that could be suggested and written about on this subject, but I fear it would possibly get me into a long ranting that wouldn’t make much sense in the long end of things.
So, what do you think after reading this? what could help our future generations handle stress in a more efficient way and possibly a more healthier future?, comments and suggestions are most welcome
Hello again
I have been worrying about what I need or can do in the future to help my children or friends to avoid getting stress related diseases or problems, let’s be honest none of us are unaffected by stress… well unless you’re a Buddhist Monk that has reached ultimate solitude.
I mean what can you do to relieve yourself of excess stress, what can you avoid in everyday life?, think about it, do you need to take multiple different public transportation to get to a job or school for example, and it is often in the last minute or you when in transit race to get through the different means of transportation as fast as possible?
Take a few minutes and think about it, I used to do just that, race between the different trains, subway or buses to get from home to school, often without reason running to get to the first available and fastest route to get to my end destination… Why?, I wasn’t in any hurry most of the time, I could have waited until the next train or whatever it wasn’t like I didn’t have time to wait…
So why didn’t I just stop up and wait?, Humans are somewhat easily influenced by their surroundings, thus I believe I may have been sent into this “race” by those around me that indeed seemed to be in a hurry or in a panic to get somewhere before a certain time, like life is a time race of sorts.
Now this has just been an example of what could be a part of stress damage that can be found among many in today’s society, If one goes into my past and begin recording everything from age 4 until like 15 of all the bullying which caused anxiety and depression to cause even further bullying and being pushed away from the normal social progression pushing bad judgment in choosing some friends that indeed was not friends at all but using you in own selfish needs…
Anyway, as you from most of this you should now understand why I want to help the next generation of my own kin and friends or even the world progress towards a healthier world and better understanding of how to avoid or control stress.
I believe I may well one day be able to shirk of most of the stress damages that has been inflicted in my childhood and teen years, but will always have lacked that being a kid and social development most people get as they are young and will thus always be sort of an outsider in that remark.
…A thought just hit me, the stereotypical response from the those that never had the hardships or claims they got stronger from it is to “build a bridge, and get over it” which is as logical as telling a rape victim to go back to their job the day after the incident and get over it!*, which you must agree is that they are totally out of their minds.
*=(Believe me, I disliked using that example and would taken something else would I have thought of anything that is worse.)
So what can we do to prepare the children and youth of tomorrow to handle and relieve themselves of the excess stress in life and lower the rates of stress related diseases in the future?
I am no psychologist thus what I am describing and suggest is what I have experienced and concluded by own dealings with said professionals on the subject of my own mental health and what could be done and what could have been done and so on.
Many times suggestions are that one should take deep breathing exercises or any gentle form of meditation, this I agree on, but a word of warning, one should study and practice meditation in moderation and be mindful that there are some danger in meditation one should be mindful of, I recommend a few searches on a search engine on the internet about meditation, “meditation science” and “dangers in meditation”.
Consulting with my family doctor suggests that exercises may be a way to help with stress related problems and diseases, I agree here as well, in combination with light meditation it be a good combination and give a better quality of life, albeit some, like myself for example may need a friend or family member to be involved in the exercise if they have something like Agoraphobia or such to strengthen the feeling of safety for the person that suffers from it.
Some with stress related diseases may benefit from talking sessions with a psychologist or a trained voluntary support person, though in some cases this is a counter-effective solution as meeting new people may well be a stress multiplier for some when having to talk with someone that is new about their stress problems, even the psychologist, unfortunately this did not help me much for example as during a long period the local psychology department in my town had temporary psychologists on loan or that was for some reason or another just there for a few months and was soon to move on to another region/town, so at a time I had a new one for every planed session…
In some cases having a voluntary person by the department as an “assigned buddy” is more uncomfortable than talking freely to a person in the family, a good friend or significant other.
Many with stress diseases find themselves stuck in home due to being uncomfortable in a perceived “unsafe” environment for fear of having a panic attack or problems related to their stress damage/disease, this is more commonly known as Agoraphobia which I mentioned earlier in this post.
There are of course many different ideas and experiences of how and what one can do about stress, this of course is different pending on the person…
As you have read this, I suspect that you will at least have a better understanding of how my view is in daily life at least a little bit, there are of course so much more that could be suggested and written about on this subject, but I fear it would possibly get me into a long ranting that wouldn’t make much sense in the long end of things.
So, what do you think after reading this? what could help our future generations handle stress in a more efficient way and possibly a more healthier future?, comments and suggestions are most welcome
